Saturday, February 1, 2020

The Perfect New Year Resolutions for 2020 - 15 New Year Resolution Ideas

Happy New Years!

May this year bring you plenty of good vibes and nothing but the best!

1. Stop negative self talk.

Talking negatively on yourself or others isn't the way to go. You attract what you speak, spread positivity.

2. Spend time away from all electronics.

Pick a day or two out of every month where you put down your electronics for 24 hours. Take time to appreciate what's around you.

3.  Try a new hangout spot.

There's nothing like your favorite 'kick it' spot, however, you never know what amazing memories you can make at a new place.

4. Pay down your debt.

It doesn't matter how big or small the amount is, put some money towards your debt every month. After all, it all adds up.

5. Practice self-care.

Self-care is super important. I feel like if you don't incorporate self-care int your life, you're lost.

6. 'Don't put all your eggs into one basket'

This is one of the best things I've heard by far. If you don't understand what this means, it just simply means don't dedicate your all to just ONE thing.

For example, you know that you don't want to financially struggle, right?

You could do different things and have multiple sources of income instead of just depending on one thing to help you.

7. Cook something new every month!

Trying new meals that you've never tried before can open your world up to great things. I swore up and down that I didn't like shrimp and grits until I actually cooked them and tried them. With apps like Tasty, you can try different recipes all for FREE! Download the app today!


Yeah, you may want to try and get so many things done in one rip but, honestly, it stresses you out. Just don't do it for the sake of your mental health, okay?

9. Try a new hobby.

Don't spend your life being bored! Get out and do something! You'll regret it if you don't.

10. Meditate. 

Incorporating meditation into your life helps you focus more and stress less. If you know nothing about meditation, I've linked a book to help you get started. 

Since I've started meditating, life has been so much easier.

Try to meditate daily.  I could be for 5 to 20 minutes.

11.  Recycle.

You've probably haven't heard this one yet. Take better care of the planet by recycling and not littering either!

12. Start a new tradition.

Okay, old traditions are the best, but creating new ones could be quite fun as well.

You can pass your new traditions down to your younger is siblings or children .

13. Make a new friend.

I don't know how many times I've heard the saying "no new friends" but that's the problem. People are so caught up in not hanging with new people, however, you might end up having a great time.

14. Stop being desperate.

Let's be honest, desperation isn't a good look, it gets you no where. The energy of desperation doesn't really attract positive things.

15. Get things done!

Every new year we come up with the same resolutions from the previous year. Let's face, that cycle gets old. Spend 2020 getting things done. 

Saturday, August 17, 2019

CHIT CHAT | Life Update + New Phone No. 2

Welcome back to another post of the 'Chit Chat' series. Even though this is my second post, I love writing them. If you haven't read my first post, check it out here!  

I've decided to make these every month because let's be honest, so much can happen within a month. Well, I know so much happens within a month in my life!

Let's get into it...

  • Work has been completely kicking my ass! All I mostly do is come right in the house, take my clothes off, and go to sleep. I hate it because I know I'm supposed to be making blog posts and on my off days, all I want to do is watch Grey's Anatomy and lay in the bed.

  • So, I have been going out a lot. It feels amazing to get out and be surrounded by other great energy. If you know me personally, you know that I'm a complete homebody. I don't like really getting out too much so this was a huge step for me. 

  • My credit score went up by 29 points! This is a huge milestone for me. I've been working on my credit so that when it's time for me to move, I'll be good. Building your credit is very important. It's good if you want to get any major loans or even looking to buy a house.

  • I got a juicer and I went and got some groceries for it so that I can do a juicing cleanse. I'm super excited because I never did anything like this!

  • I got another job! I'm super excited about this job because it pays well and offers some wonderful benefits. I just want to say how I am so grateful for this job because you all have no idea how long I've been looking for a job like this. Ya girl can make more and work towards bigger goals like getting my dream car and apartment. 

Going through all the things that I went through for the past 7 months makes me so proud when I look back. If you would've told me that “everything is going to be okay” a while ago, I swear I wouldn't even believe you. I went through a deep depression. No, I didn't want to go through it but at that moment, it just happened, and I had no idea how to fix it. I'm so blessed now that I have gained opportunities to turn my life completely around. 

Things I've learned.

You have to sometimes get uncomfortable to get to where you need to be. There are a few things in life that I am personally doing to get to where I want to be. Like, I'm planning to work two jobs that way I can balance everything out. Now, I'm not saying you have to work two jobs, however, you may have to do something that you're uncomfortable doing to make your life better.

For example, if you are used to being taken care of and you don't have that anymore, then you would have to get used to working to provide for yourself.

Patience is the key. I'm very impatient when it comes to just about everything. It took me to endure a lot of trials and tribulations to learn that I have to learn how to be patient. I always expect everything to go very fast-paced for me and sometimes there is nothing wrong with that, but I had to consider the fact that everything is not going to move super duper fast for me. 

Put in the work! There have been many times when I expected things to happen for me but I never put in the work. When you put in the work, the rewards follow. I remember wanting so many things to come from my blog, but I was never on it when it came to consistently update my blog. Once, I really started putting in some effort to change my blog around, I started seeing rewards from it.

Don't let things get the best of you. Getting worked up over something that isn't going to be relevant in the next 24 hours, is not good for you. Let it go!

Tone out the negativity. If you don't already know this, other people's energy can rub off on you! If you're surrounded by negativity, you might want to put a lot of effort into protecting your energy.

New things I've got.

 I'm so in love with my wallpaper, btw.

Soooooooooooo, I recently got a brand-new phone. I put my iPhone 8 plus to the side and got the iPhone X. Not going to lie, I was frustrated with this change at first because I didn't know how to work the phone, I wasn't used to not having a home button, and I had to get used to the overall feel of the phone. Now that I am used to it, I love it! My phone has a whole business feel to it and I'm all for it.

I went online shopping and got a bunch of new pieces from Fashion Nova and Forever 21 so please be on the lookout for a fashion haul post with pictures! I'm getting back into the groove of treating myself to clothes.

I got these groceries for my juicer and to eat. Even though it was kind of expensive, I'm happy that I got them. I do need some more veggies though. If you know some good juice recipes that include veggies that you don't see in this picture, please let me know!

Things I've Tried.

  • Well, I've been using my new juicer and I love it! The red juice includes watermelon, granny smith apples, and pineapples. The green juice includes pineapple, kale, mint, granny smith apples, and blueberries. They were both amazing. Incorporating 100% juices into my diet has been making me feel good. I have more energy and my skin has this glow. Playing with my juicer is fun but drinking the juices are even better!

  • I am transitioning to becoming vegetarian but I really had to try this chicken sandwich before I completely cut out meat. The hype is definitely real. This sandwich is fireeeeeeeee. This is the spicy sandwich just in case you all want to try it. 

Friday, August 16, 2019

What to do When You Feel Unmotivated

Let’s be real, we all don’t feel motivated 100% of the time. It’s difficult to stay motivated especially when you are dealing with personal issues such as grief, depression, anxiety, etc. Sometimes I have to force myself to do things I would normally do with ease. In these moments, I feel myself adding pressure and self-critique to all my actions, constantly reminding myself that my life is not as long as I think it is, so I must seize every moment. You may not be dealing with the same circumstances as me, but I know you’ve dealt with feeling unmotivated.
We’ve all been faced with a task completely unmotivated, questioning why you even
attempted to do this thing, daydreaming of lying in your bed or your next vacation. If your
goal is to be successful, you can’t only take action when inspiration hits. Motivation is elusive.
Sometimes you feel it and you’re achieving your goals with ease. Other days, you’re hitting the
snooze button ten times and fighting the urge to call out sick from work.
Here are my 5 tips to help you find your motivation again:

1. Determine Your Bigger Purpose
Have clear reasons for why you’re achieving a particular task. Without a purpose, your
effort will fall short quickly. When you do things that matter to you personally they become
meaningful tasks, rather than annoying to-dos. If you find yourself working on a task and you
don’t remember why you’re doing it, chances are it shouldn’t be one of your priorities. Remind
yourself that hard work is a part of crafting yourself into who you want to be. Reflect on the
impact that your work has on others. Refer to your bragbook whenever you feel doubtful.
Keep screenshots of nice things people say about you and your work as a booster when you’re
feeling unmotivated.

2. Narrow Down Your Tasks
It’s better to work on your top goals for 20 minutes a day than to work on them once a month.
Consistency and repetition lead to developing highly effective habits. Beyoncé was not built
in a day. It takes years of repetition, consistency, and persistence to reach your maximum potential. So, trust in the process. Don’t let the journey wear you out. You don’t have to wake
up at 5am every day to be a high achiever. Maximize your productivity in the allotted time
that you give yourself by setting deadlines for your specific goals.
Don’t just set deadlines for business tasks; schedule your personal time as well. Schedule your
dinner with friends and gym time like you would a business meeting. This may sound
excessive however it is a game-changer. If you begin with a small task and continuously
complete the next small task, you’ll realize that you’ve become closer to conquering your
large goals over time.

3. Reward Yourself
It can be challenging to stay motivated and on top of things if there’s no reward in sight. Many people await big promotions and major news before they feel like they can celebrate. Celebrate the small wins and give yourself something to look forward too. When you find the motivation to not give up and you push yourself to persist, celebrate that advancement. If you do well in a presentation or you complete a difficult workout, celebrate by going out with loved ones or watching one of your favorite TV shows.

4. Don’t Be Afraid To Make Mistakes
Failure is a massive part of becoming successful. The practice is controlled failure. When I don’t know how to complete a task, my initial reaction is to pause, and then self-doubt thoughts immediately flow into my head. I combat this feeling by just doing it. Even if the first draft is horrendous, I go ahead and get my thoughts out and worry about revising later. Embrace getting the task done rather than getting it done perfectly. Getting things wrong is part of everyone’s process. Many of us spend way too much time revising and second-guessing our work instead of finishing it and moving on. That’s why there are many dreamers and not nearly as many high achievers. Enjoy the process of solving your biggest challenges. Use that confidence to fuel your next task.

5. Change Your Environment
It can be difficult to do great things when you’re not in a positive environment. Make your work
environment inspiring. Be deliberate about what’s on your desktop background, what surrounds
your desk/workspace, the energy of the people you’re around. Be mindful of what videos/music
you’re listening to. Make a playlist of YouTube videos and music that inspire you and listen to
that when you’re feeling unmotivated. If you’ve been sitting in one spot too long, take a walk,
chat with a coworker or friend. Find a new place to sit so you can accelerate your focus. Your
environment should jump-start your momentum.
Take it one day at a time. Wake up with the intention to make yourself proud of
every day!

About the author:

Sade Jones is an advertising professional, entrepreneur, and lifestyle blogger. She's an
ambitious woman, who is often terrified of taking risks, but does it anyway! A Queens,
New York native who loves to travel, exercise, write and inspire others to embrace the fire
inside them. When she’s not busy creating content that empowers others on her blog, she can be found gallivanting around the world.